The Boundary of the Physical Self
The first thing to do in order to set boundaries for your physical self is to change your lifestyle. That means breaking old habits, changing your diet, creating a healthy routine, and moving away from people who are not aligned with who you are. (including friends and family if necessary). Associate yourself with people who will help you toward that higher perspective; people who are good for your mental health.
It also means facing yourself. Your problem will never go away until you deal with it! If you want to work on your issues, you have to acknowledge it and deal with it. You don’t have to say it to the world but you have to say it to yourself. Then realize that is a limitation, or dysfunction, or whatever you want to call it and work on how to handle it and resolve it. If you have to set boundaries for yourself to not overstep yourself getting into situations where you should not be, do it!
It’s also meant to not let the external world or let people’s perception of you dictate your behaviour. And that’s why knowledge of self is fundamental. It will lead you to self-satisfaction, self-fulfillment and give you the self-worth, and self-esteem that you need to achieve great heights in life.
The Boundary of the Mental Self
The next boundary is the boundary of Mind. This is referred to as a healthy balanced ego. Psychological studies have demonstrated that most people operate on “automatic conscious” meaning they do not actively or consciously think and make decisions at least 95% of the time. So the thought and decision-making process is handled 95% of the time by the bubbling thoughts coming from the unconscious mind based on the ego. With that energy behind your unconscious mind, you will start to create negative situations in your life and obstruct your capacity to live life successfully.
When you let your ego lead you, it’s self-destruction. Your ego will destroy your self-worth, motivation, and confidence to the point of no longer caring about your own health. You lose touch with reality and forget your purpose and what you love about yourself. You are looking for superficial things in life. You let desire control you and you lose your empathy, compassion, and your ability to relate and connect to others, and God.
On the other hand, when you are led by your Higher Self, you see life as a gift. You seek out the best options for yourselves and remember the others you exist with. You act for the benefit of others, the benefit of humanity. You inspire others to achieve great heights in life and promote universal love.
It is impossible for both the ego and the soul “Higher Self” to be working at the same time.
Each and everything we do feeds one of them. And whichever it does, is the one that gains more power in ourselves. It is up to us to recognize which one is present and when. In every decision you make, ask yourself, is this my ego or my Higher Self talking? When we can recognize the difference and step outside of our ego, we can welcome the soul in.
The Boundary of the Spiritual Self
The last one is the boundary of the spiritual self, your soul. For that you will have to use mediation. Meditation is a link to the Source to receive what the Soul needs. Meditation will help you to discover your higher nature of who you truly are, discover your God-given gift, and your inner power. Meditation will also help you to permanently clear, heal and release negative thoughts, emotions, fears, traumas, and limiting beliefs that create pain and suffering in your life. Meditation is always a great way to shield and protect yourself from negative energies. Practice meditation when you are down, stressed and low on energy. Practice meditation to start developing calmness and developing a feeling of joy in aloneness, in being by yourself. It will help you to find peace and happiness within yourself.
To work on yourself is the best gift you can give to yourself. Accept that you are not perfect, but you are enough and then start working on everything that destroys you. Your insecurities, your ego, your traumas, your dark thoughts. You will see, in the end you will make peace with yourself. And that’s the greatest thing in the world.
Amandine S'iita
Inspirational Writer